The phrase “self-esteem” assumes that we esteem ourselves. Why then do we think that it should come from others? If our esteem comes from others, it would be called “other-esteem.” The phrase “self-esteem” means that the esteem comes from the self.

When choosing a reinforcer, it is helpful to use the Premack principle. To do this, look for a reinforcer that the child already seeks. If the child craves attention, use attention as the reinforcer. If the child craves video games, use video game time. If the child craves sugary snack, use a treat.

When using a reinforcer, its important that you don’t use a reinforcer that has already reached satiation. This occurs when the kid has experienced the reward so much that it is no longer enticing.

The problem arises when the child cannot seem to wait until the end of the day. The child doesn’t have enough willpower and patience to continue to be compliant, so they can earn a reward at the end of the day. The child needs a more immediate reward for good behavior. When this problem arises, a token economy can be a good solution.