Marriage and relational counseling focuses on the marriage and the individuals that make up the marriage. When working on the marriage, the couple works together to identify problems in their marriage. The couple decides how they want the marriage to look. The couple develops plans to make their marriage into what they want it to be.
When working on themselves, the individuals identify how they want to experience themselves in and outside of the marriage. The individuals let go of the idea that they have to make their spouse act a specific way for them to be happy. The individuals explore how to be at peace with themselves. The individuals explore how to enjoy the positives they find in their spouse. The individuals identify how to set healthy boundaries so that their spouse's actions do not harm them. The individuals learn to forgive by helping themselves let go of anger and animosity toward their spouse.