“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi
Part of being the best mom, the best dad, or the best spouse; is making yourself into the best you that you can be. This often means changing behaviors and mindsets. This means meeting new goals. It can mean changing careers. It entails overcoming stifling depression and paralyzing anxiety. The best chefs say that the secret to cooking the best meal is using the best ingredients. Actively working toward being the best version of yourself, is you adding your best ingredient to any relationship.
Sometimes people come into therapy because they feel that their life isn’t working. Often it doesn’t take a lot to change a problem. “To break a large damn, one only needs to punch a small hole in it.” – Milton Erickson
Any change in the status quo, creates a change in the overall system. It doesn't always take two. Studies show that one person attending relationship counseling is just as, or more affective than two people attending.